Think and reflect
Complete the Conflict resolution questionnaire and reflect on your responses in your blog.
What is your approach to managing conflict?
Does this match to how you think of yourself?
What areas do you think you need to develop?
My highest approaches, separated by one point were Problem Solving and Avoidance. I had to laugh. They seem to be on opposite ends of the spectrum so, perhaps it depends on the topic, the people involved and my mood as to whether I try to solve the problem or not.
When I was younger, I would 100% avoid any and all conflict. I didn’t respond well. If I was angry, I would cry and if someone is aggressive or critical of me, I would have nothing to say until hours after. Plus, I was a terrible people pleaser. These are all things I have been working on and I am glad to see my time spent problem solving and developing those skills has started to pay off.
Still, I would prefer to avoid conflict if I can, however, I understand conflict is sometimes necessary in development. I need to work on my preference for Yielding, which remains uncomfortably high aka giving in entirely and operating with no expectation of reciprocation. These could be a tool of avoidance, to be fair, but definitely something I need to work on.
